Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Do You Have Real Friends In Your Life?

Do You Have Real Friends In Your Life?

Do you have a real friend in your life ? No, I mean a real friend, someone that you can count on ? Most people in America don't. Sure, lots of us have people we have “friends” that we go out to dinner with, sit at the bar with perhaps, maybe watch sporting events or might help out with some small, meager task that we have need in. But, in today's day and age of “who can I trust?”, do you have a friend in your life that when things go wrong, life throws you a curve ball as they say, do you have someone or a group of people that you can count on to help you out of the pit of despair or loan you the money that you need to survive ? No ? Well, don't feel bad, you're not alone.

Most Americans enjoy the freedom of being alone and liking it. Let's be honest, most Americans want their personal space between them and others measured very far, unless of course that means gaining something from someone. That is, until there is a problem they can't get out of. In the time in which we live, many cannot pick up the phone and call their family for help either. Most families in the U.S are fragmented at best. Years ago, you could go to Grandma and Grandpa and weep in their arms. Yes, there are still some loving grandparents out there(thank the Lord), but more and more grandparents aren't there for their grandchildren. Instead, they have a life of their own, traveling or just avoiding family issues all together because of sticky family relationships such as separations, divorces, animosity between siblings, and so on. Ask mom and or dad help ? Well, it's even worse to go to your parents for help for so many Americans because most parents here are divorced and if you have a step-parent you need to ask help from, oh boy !

Currently in the USA, Families and many so called friends are not that reliable. At least, no where as reliable to help you if you needed them as in the past, that includes so called “friends” on social media sites as well. I've heard it said more than a few times over the years now, even from the pulpit... “If you have one good friend in your life, someone that you can truly rely on in the day of trouble, count yourself as being very blessed.” I know that Jesus of the Bible “will never leave you nor forsake you”, but as far as Christians go, friendship among them seems more influenced by the “world” than by Jesus and His Word to “love one another”(John 13:35). When the day of trouble comes, and it will at some point, wouldn't it be great if there were people in your life that you could count on to help you, or they count on you? If the majority of Christians cannot be counted on to be friends with helping their own, who then can you count on when “all hell breaks loose” in life?

We all need friends. Probably no one knows that better than those that are active US Military Members and or Veterans who have been deployed during wartime. Have you ever wondered why many military members “re-up” back into the military when it's time for them to leave the military and decide not to go home ? It's not that they enjoy war, no it's about the comradery, the friendship's, the “I got your back” and “I got your six.” To know that someone absolutely has your back when there is a real danger to your life, is a feeling that few ever experience here in America. Instead, the majority of Americans look out for themselves, pay little attention to the suffering around them. Oh sure, most Americans seeing someone suffering might at some point say “oh, poor thing”, or “wow, that's sad” when seeing some person being needlessly attacked or suffering. Heck, you might even get someone to give a few bucks towards a worthy cause now and then, but most sympathetic statements made by Americans and or money given to someone in real need is not done so to make a real friendship. Nope, having pity on someone and giving a few dollars to the suffering for many(not all, thank the Lord) is just a way to put their conscience temporarily at ease and has nothing to do with wanting or desiring a interpersonal relationship with someone. Giving out of love however, is always different. Friendships always involve love and(nonsexual) sacrifice in helping. It desires to make a life long bond with someone so that others will be successful. That is something real friendships are made of., love, love, love ! The kind of love that is so deep, it is sacrificial. Thank God for real friends like that !

Life can be difficult. No ! Life for the vast majority of us is difficult ! Friendship is about selflessness, a desire to see others do better and “having their back.” Friends celebrate the good things in life and grieve with their friends when things go bad. Instead of remaining sad though, true friends grab the downcast friend by the arm and help lift them up. They walk 20 miles with their friends even when they are asked to only walk ten. True friendship is something to absolutely be thankful to the Lord for because there are so very few of them in this lonely world. Yes, it is lonely out there for most because many families are broke and good friendships are few. If you are like me however, you are always looking to bless and help someone, a true friend is just one more person away. He and or she is waiting for you. Waiting for you to make the first move to help them up from being knocked down from the wiles of life. We all need true, selfless friendships where folks help one-another. True friendship is a 2-way street.

Will you be someone's real friend today ? No hidden agenda's, be a real friend to someone.

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Rev. Paul P. Waldmiller~Black Robe Regiment Pastor

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