When Christians Destroy Marriages And
Families
Not everyone who call's him or herself
is a real Christian. This couldn't be more clear and evident than
what we see in how people who call themselves by the name of Christ
in relation to one-another in terms of marital relationships and
family matters these days. As a former Chemical Dependency Counselor
and Family Counselor/Mediator, I have seen more than I wish to
remember, the number of Christians and so called “Christian
Pastors” aiding in destroying, and not helping marriages or
families in crisis. Unfortunately, many so called Christians and
Pastors these days have left the wisdom of the Bible and now
propagate such man-made ideas such as psychology or relying on
“feelings.” Rather than the Word of God being the instrument of
wisdom on such matters, sadly many are instead running to read and
learn from James Dobson or Mark Driscoll books instead.
With the rise of Feminism over the last
40 years, the Spirit of Jezebel has sadly not only worked it's way
into the hierarchy of our Government and courts, it has also wormed
it's way into our educational institutions, schools and even into
many American churches as well. I remember some years ago meeting a
man who was a radio program and television host who proudly touted to
me and a few others how his wife was a “Pro-Life Feminist.” My
reply to him directly, (while editing his program) was that what he
was sharing with myself and everyone else in the room regarding his
wife's beliefs could be compared to “jumbo-shrimp, an oxymoron.”
As you can quite imagine, he was not too pleased with what I told him
but he was not a Christian, but he was to some degree, very
religious. I went on to explain to him the facts surrounding
rebellious attitudes of Feminism, Machoism and gave him some Bible
Scriptures to back it all up. What occurred after that, was he became
so incensed about what the Bible declared, I never seen him again. He
chose like so many involved in “religion” and “feelings” to
become irate over Biblical truth rather than accept it's wisdom.
Feminism and Machosim(“love 'em and leave 'em) attitudes and
ideologies belong to the devil and have no place in a Christian's
heart nor a church.
That's the main problem with many so
called “Christians”, they are not abiding by the Bible but
instead, are following some sort of religion which may have a claim
to Christianity or appearance on the surface of Christianity, but in
reality is far from what the Bible plainly teaches. Specifically in
regards to marriage and family, as I shared earlier, most Christians
destroy God's design for marriages and families much more than help
them. I believe some of the largest and visible evidence of what I am
sharing here is that of divorce. What does Jesus plainly say in the
Bible regarding divorce ? Well, Jesus spoke of only one reason to
divorce(if the offended chooses to do so), and that is for
adultery(Matt 19:9). I have heard so many so called Christians and
Pastors advocate for divorce for a multitude of reasons over the
years calling it “a form of adultery”(marital infidelity)
justifying a divorce, but these Christians and Pastors are doing
great harm and doing the devils work instead. There is no “out”
of a marriage in the Christian Bible for domestic violence, arguing,
rebelliousness and so on. I know some of you are saying “Oh !
pastor you are sooooooo wrong, you have no idea what she/he did to me
!!!! ” I can tell you that I have been greatly abused, both
physically and verbally. I could have divorced and could have found
plenty of so called “Christians” and “Pastors” to enable me
to do so, but I didn't. I can tell you also that in the Bible, it
does mention regarding “separating for a season” but most have no
real Biblical venue to get their marriages repaired while “separated”
for the purpose of healing. Real Pastors with Biblical authority know
exactly how to stop a man/woman engaged in terrorizing their spouse
but sadly, they love their IRS 501c3 tax Exempt Status more. Often
times, so called Pastors these days only end-up choosing sides or
give up and let the marriage get destroyed. Thus, even if one party
in a marriage wishes not to be divorced, they get dragged before the
corrupted Government and attorneys anyway, thus the devil wins again
and the marriage and family destroyed.
Pastors these days do not hold folks
that attend their churches accountable for their actions. Sadly, most
Pastors in churches these days are more concerned about their pay,
their parking spot or getting their Starbucks Coffee then they are
about following the Word of God. Marriages and families suffer
greatly and teachings such as what is written in Titus Chapter 2
regarding teaching/following family values/roles are totally ignored.
The void of good Biblical Pastors in our nation has led to more Mark
Driscoll's out there who put beds next to pulpits and teach openly
and inappropriately about sexual matters to their congregations. The
lack of sound Biblical teaching in most churches in America has
allowed men and women to divorce and remarry over and over again with
little to no real accountability at the local church level. I hardly
know anyone alive in America who has been married just one time in
their life time(I'm not speaking of a spouse dying and remarriage).
The vast majority of American adults these days are either divorced,
divorced/remarried or cohabitating. None of these fore mentioned
interpersonal type relationships are Biblical. Divorce and or
Biblical separation should be rare. But they are not. This is not
only a problem, the negative consequences of such is playing it's
self out in the nightly news everyday.
So, the churches, Pastors and
Christians are involved in unbiblical actions regarding marriages and
families. The best you can get and hope from many of them to “help”
is either a “Divorce Recovery Workshop” or a “Men's or Women's
Bible Study Group.” Neither of these are very helpful other than
possibly being a good place to vent. Other than that, they are
useless. The fruit of Pastors and Christians involving themselves in
wicked things such as divorce for unbiblical matters, has allowed an
increasing amount of children alienated from their parents and an
increasing amount of men(who have little to no social support) who
are killing themselves and or others
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2441911/Father-distraught-access-son-killed-eating-poisonous-leaves-berries.html.
The blame for all this is squarely blamed on Christians and their
Pastors who ignore the Bible and marriages as well as families in
crisis. As Child protective Services, corrupted family courts,
lawyers, domestic violence programs and cops increase their illegal
activities in stealing children from good parents all to make
cash(Federal Title IV Funding). It is only Christians and their
pastors that can be blamed for ignoring these same marriages and
families being purposely destroyed. Equally sharing in the evil, I
have been finding more and more so called Christian “Attorneys”
who are just as much to blame for the failure of these same marriages
and families. Perhaps there is a special place in hell for those so
called “Christian lawyers” who screw people out of a lot of
money, refuse to help and in the end, the troubled marriage end up
divorced, lose their children or in end-up in the “poor house”
anyway. Someone must call “foul”, and I'm calling out so called
“Christians”, “Christian Pastors” and “Christian Lawyers.”
The bottom line here is this; if you
dare, yes...that is dare to call yourself a “Christian” or even
more so, a “Christian Pastor”, your job, your command, your
Biblical responsibility is to help heal, help teach, help enforce
Biblical teachings, not to do as you “feel.” Stop feeding the
devil and go help a marriage and or family in need today !
Rev. Paul P. Waldmiller~Black Robe
Regiment Pastor
